Share 1.Have you kept a New Year’s resolution where you weren’t accountable to anyone—a resolution like drinking more water or keeping a journal? Sure, I’m good at keeping resolutions, but I make them whenever the time seems right. I wouldn’t wait for the New Year; January 1 is an arbitrary date. No. I hate to bind myself in any way. Sure. I’m good at keeping New Year’s resolutions, even ones that no one knows about but me. I’ve had trouble with that kind of resolution, so I’m not inclined to make one, whether at the New Year or any time. When I’m only helping myself, I often struggle. 2.Which statement best describes your view about your commitments to yourself? I take my commitments to myself as seriously as my commitments to other people. I make a commitment to myself only if I’m convinced that it really makes good sense to do it. I bind myself as little as possible. If someone else is holding me accountable for my commitments, I’ll meet them—but if no one knows except me, I struggle. 3.At times, we feel frustrated by ourselves. Are you most likely to feel frustrated because… My constant need for more information exhausts me. I can’t take a break from my usual habits, or violate the rules, even when I want to. I can take time for other people, but I can’t take time for myself. As soon as someone expects me to do something, I don’t want to do it. 4.When you’ve formed a healthy habit in the past, what helped you stick to it? I’m pretty good at sticking to habits, even when no one else cares. I could stick to a good habit only when I was answerable to someone else. Usually I don’t choose to bind myself in advance to a particular course of action. Doing a lot of research and customization about why and how I might keep that habit. 5.If people complain about your behaviour, you’d be least surprised to hear them say… You only do what you want to do, when you want to do it. You stick to your good habits, ones that matter only to you, even when it’s inconvenient for someone else. You’re good at taking the time when others ask you to do something, but you’re not good at taking time for yourself. You ask too many questions. 6.Which description suits you best? Refuses to be bossed by others. Disciplined—sometimes, even when it doesn’t make sense. Puts others—clients, family, neighbours, coworkers—first. Asks necessary questions. 7.People get frustrated with me, because if they ask me to do something, I’m less likely to do it (even if they’re a boss or client). Tend to Disagree. Neutral. Tend to Agree. 8.I do what I think makes the most sense, according to my judgment, even if that means ignoring the rules or other people’s expectations. Tend to Disagree. Neutral. Tend to Agree. 9.Commitments to others should never be broken, but commitments to myself can be broken. Tend to Disagree. Neutral. Tend to Agree. 10.Sometimes I won’t do something I want to do, because someone wants me to do it. Tend to Disagree. Tend to Agree. 11.I’ve sometimes described myself as a people-pleaser. Tend to Disagree. Tend to Agree. 12.I don’t mind breaking rules or violating convention–I often enjoy it. Tend to Disagree. Tend to Agree.
